via press release:
RELATIONSHIP EXPERT TRACY MCMILLAN FEATURED ON “SUPER SOUL SUNDAY” THIS SUNDAY, MAY 4 ON OWN: OPRAH WINFREY NETWORK
Tracy Discusses The Spiritual Aspects of Love, Dating and Relationships
Los Angeles – Oprah sits down with relationship expert Tracy McMillan, author of “Why You’re Not Married…Yet” in an all-new episode of “Super Soul Sunday” airing this Sunday, May 4 at 11 a.m. ET/PT on OWN: Oprah Winfrey Network
In the episode, Oprah and Tracy discuss the spiritual path of relationships. Tracy wrote a provocative article about sex and relationships, “Why You’re Not Married,” which is one of the most-viewed articles ever on The Huffington Post (over 2.5 million views). Through her trademark humor, Tracy shares what she believes are the spiritual aspects of love and why our ability to love ourselves is key to loving someone else.
EXCERPT: Tracy McMillan on Why You Don't Have the Relationship You Want
OPRAH: You say another reason why we don't have the relationships you want, why you're not married, strong relationships, is because you're a liar.
TRACY: Yes. And what does lying mean? Well, for example, the guy says, “okay, I just want to keep it casual. We can have casual sex. Like I'm just not in the mood for a big relationship right now.” And you go, “oh, that's fine. I'm not in the mood for a big relationship right now either. Maybe in a couple weeks I will be. But right now everything's cool.”
TRACY: That's a lie. That's a lie. If you want to be in a long-term committed relationship, you have to say that. You can't just --
OPRAH: But you shouldn't say it --
TRACY: -- hide it behind your back --
OPRAH: -- but you shouldn't say it on the first date.
TRACY: No, you don't have to say it on the first date. You say to the person, if you give any boundary pretty much at all to another person, they'll be like, oh. If you say to them, hey, I really want a long-term relationship and they don't want that, they'll -- they'll be like, okay, pass.
OPRAH: That's exactly what you say in the HuffPo article. You say -- and now in the book you say that if -- women are an afraid mostly to tell the truth.
OPRAH: Because if they tell the truth, if they say well I was really looking for a longer term relationship. That the guy will go -- he will not call you again.
OPRAH: So you try to -- you tell the lie to yourself and to him.
TRACY: That's right.
OPRAH: That you're willing to be casual and keep it casual.
OPRAH: Hoping that the longer he stays around you.
OPRAH: He'll be convinced that you are the one.
TRACY: That's right.
OPRAH: And that will change.
OPRAH: And you're saying that doesn't change.
TRACY: It doesn't.
TRACY: No, it doesn’t.
About “Super Soul Sunday”
“Super Soul Sunday” is the multi-award winning daytime series that delivers a timely thought-provoking, eye-opening and inspiring block of programming designed to help viewers awaken to their best selves and discover a deeper connection to the world around them. Recognized by the National Academy of Television Arts & Sciences with a Daytime Emmy® award, the Alliance of Women in Media Foundation with a Gracie award and the Religion Communicators Council with a Wilbur award, “Super Soul Sunday” features all-new conversations between Oprah Winfrey and top thinkers, authors, visionaries and spiritual leaders. Exploring themes and issues including happiness, personal fulfillment, spirituality and conscious living, guests who have appeared include Nobel laureate Elie Wiesel, Dr. Maya Angelou, Gary Zukav, Marianne Williamson, Ram Dass, Eckhart Tolle, indie.arie, Coach Phil Jackson, don Miguel Ruiz, and Thich Nhat Hanh. Home to Oprah’s Book Club 2.0, the series has helped surge book sales of bestselling author Cheryl Strayed, debut novelist Ayana Mathis and bestselling author Sue Monk Kidd. A truly unique television experience, this groundbreaking series has attracted one of the most loyal, active and engaged social communities in television. Every episode has ranked in the top ten most social shows in broadcast television and cable, frequently spiking to number one (source: Bluefin Data). Produced by Harpo Studios, “Super Soul Sunday” presents an array of perspectives on what it means to be alive in today’s world.